Tuesday, March 22, 2011

Cooking today....

Home alone today and cooking just for me...Thinking about my friends in Japan made me feel thankful for every gift and along with my daily tanks for my meal prayer...I thought for a long time, how some of my friends have survived the events, how they must be thankful as well for as little or as much as they may have today.




My mind goes to Jay, Linda...







 
In a narcissist world one must decide early in life to follow or live by your own well established precepts. One learns to survive true to oneself! True to values accommodating our fellow man's rights without devaluing our humanity...



So long for today...

FRIENDSHIPS BETWEEN BROTHERS AND SISTERS

FRIENDSHIPS BETWEEN BROTHERS AND SISTERS 

Aristotle maintains that “the friendship that exists between siblings is similar to that which exists amongst peers.” Vazquez de Prada shares the same opinion: “Frequently relationships do not develop further due to a misguided urgency to keep one’s thoughts to one’s self. Personal thoughts are less likely to be revealed by one’s companions than by those in the home. It is better to say that outsiders only know bits and pieces while in the home it is impossible to have ‘half secrets.’“


It appears that between siblings there is greater resistance to confiding in one another than among friends. The reason is obvious: friends keep secrets better than siblings. No one shares something intimate knowing the person will pass it on to others (“others” being parents and the other siblings).

Possibly, lack of confidentiality among siblings may be attributed to the intensity or family life. It is not easy to maintain silence in matters concerning those we live with so intimately (parents and siblings).

As a result, the relationship among siblings is reduced to that of acquaintances; lacking in the indispensable condition of friendship “baring one’s to the other, communicating intimate thoughts. Here we have an objective to achieve in family enrichment: that siblings learn to confide in one another and to respect these secrets. They must learn that not everything a sibling shares should be communicated within or outside of the family.
 
 

Just like pairs of boots laid out by the back door, ready to be worn the next day for whatever purpose intended rivalries amongst sibling are best left outside for a while...Left to rest as if in a sabbatical day till the time comes to resume our intentions for friends with our blood relatives. Brotherly love will be enhanced with a new ingredient: friendship. It is not a matter of forgetting blood ties in order to become friends, but rather of loving one another better and more profoundly. In order to make this a reality they need to learn to confide in one another, thus arriving at friendship.
 
 



Thursday, March 17, 2011

Horsin' around....

Buying a horse is a big commitment in both time and money. The emotional energy spent is a large factor as well.




If you buy a horse before you lay the correct groundwork, you run the risk of coming home with a horse that isn't suitable for you. At the worst, he could be dangerous and at best, you could wind up spending a thousand dollars or more to get professional trainer to correct the problems.



Before you go horse shopping there are steps to go through.

1. Take riding lessons for at least six months.

Riding lessons will teach you the basics of control on your horse and the foundation for correct horsemanship. These lessons will teach you to ride and also how to safely groom and handle a horse. You'll also establish a relationship with a professional horse person in your area who knows you and who you can turn to for help if you need it.

2. Decide on the type of riding you want to do.

There are many types of riding styles. The most basic are Western or English. Then you can break down those two styles into many subcategories. You don't have to make one choice exclusive of all others. Many people enjoy riding both styles and compete in both.



Decide on how big a horse you need.


If you’re looking for a horse for a child, buy a pony that your child can groom and handle now. A too big horse is intimidating for a young child to deal with.



If you’re looking for one for yourself, consider the type of riding you want to do. Western styles of riding do not require a large horse and most of the stock type horses can carry a large adult even if the horse is 15 hands or smaller. A larger horse in a western class has an automatic disadvantage because he will have to work so much harder to shorten his stride. A big horse who is actually going slow is still going to pass the smaller horses and appear to be too fast.



If you want to show in hunter/jumper classes on the 'A Circuit', a 16+ hand horse is necessary to be competitive. However, if your plans are to learn to jump and go to smaller local shows, you’ll save money by buying a smaller horse.


The road is long


With many a winding turn

That leads us to who knows where

Who knows where

But I'm strong

Strong enough to carry him

He ain't heavy, he's my brother





So on we go



His welfare is of my concern

No burden is he to bear

We'll get there





A smile from a good woman is worth more'n a dozen handed out by a bartender.



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Sunday, March 13, 2011

My gear...ready to go!!

Ready or not!

There's nothing more American than cowboys. They are the larger than life legends of the Old West. And yet, the first cowboys weren't icons of America at all. They were just the opposite. The term cowboy began during the Revolutionary War to describe Tories (Americans loyal to England) who used cowbells to imitate lost cattle. This would lure unsuspecting patriots into ambushes. Despite the unpatriotic origin of the term, over time the cowboy would become the symbol of America. Unfortunately today, real cowboys are almost gone. But the terms they used live on in our language. So sit back, throw another log on the fire, and learn how to talk like a cowboy.

Rodeo -- a celebration at the end of a successful cattle drive




Roundup -- gathering all the cattle on the ranch to get a head count



Rustler -- someone who steals cattle



Shindig -- a dance

"I do not believe I am a real Cowboy! I believe they are all dead. To be a real Cowboy in my book a person would have rode a horse from Detroit, Michigan to Tombstone, Arizona. If you look at our history all the Cowboys came from back east and settled the West. This is where I believe anyone can be a Cowboy; you don't have to be born in Texas or New Mexico to be a real Cowboy. The one problem that is involved with finding a real Cowboy is; What is a Real Cowboy? If you can answer that for me then a lot of people would be able to say if they are or are not a Real Cowboy.
 
 
 
Stetson Cowboy Hat


The quality of the stetson cowboy hat is unparalleled and if you don't already own one, I reckon you better rectify that before mornin'....
The Stetson Hat History


It was all started by a young American entrepreneur in the mid 1800’s named John B. Stetson and this is his story.

If there was one thing John B. Stetson hated, it was the patter of raindrops on his head. He knew the rain and East coast cold weather would make his tuberculosis worse. In 1859, on doctor’s advice, the 24 year-old John B. moved out West.

By the 1860’s, John B. was panning for gold in Colorado but found the rugged life made him sicker. When he was trapped in the mountains and threatened by sudden rainstorms and howling winds, ordinary clothing didn't keep him warm and dry. He knew he had to act fast to protect himself " or die " so he hurled himself into the task. He noticed how beavers’ pelts repelled water in streams, so he trapped a few and created a thick fur felt that he used to make a tent, which kept him warm and dry.

John B., who came from a family of Hat makers, then decided to try using the fur felt for a Hat. His father, who taught John B. how to make felt in the first place, also taught him that a big air pocket between the top of the head and the Hat s crown created a cushion of warm air that kept the head warm. Outdoor western living taught him that a Hat had to have a wide brim to keep out the elements. It also taught him that hauling water was vital on the frontier, so he made the inside lining of his Hat waterproof. This meant it could double as a water bucket if needed. (That’s how Stetson Hats got nicknamed the "10 gallon" Hats even though the original never held more than a half-gallon.) John B. pulled all these elements together in his design. The finished product had an unusual 6-inch high crown and a 7-inch brim. The first famous Stetson Hat had been born.

The industrious Mr. Stetson decided to manufacture and sell his Hat after a mule driver paid him a $5 gold piece for the Hat right off his head.

John B.’s success didn't happen overnight. In 1865, he returned to his native Philadelphia to open his first Hat factory. He only had $100 in capital so he rented a tiny room and bought tools and $10 worth of fur to make felt cloth. He was the sole employee.

But he wore his Hat everywhere, knowing it would spark interest. Within a year, he was adding workers and making Hats in quantity. Stetson paid close attention to details. He made sure people knew that he used only the best materials. The name "Stetson" was stamped with a long lasting 14-karat gold leaf on the inside hatband.

The Hats were a big hit in the thinly populated West, where taking a beating was a requirement for clothes (and for people). The Stetson was heavy enough to knock a man down in a fight. In a celebrated incident, a Stetson kept its shape after being hit by 20 bullets. The rugged individualism of the West was perfectly represented by a Hat that could be shaped differently by each wearer -- a punched-in crown, a bended brim, a braided leather band were all different ways for to make a Stetson one’s own.

Big-city Easterners scoffed at these Hats at first, unaware of their practicality. But Stetson didn’t give up. He knew that as sales grew, word would circulate about his product. He was right. Variations of the Hat eventually appealed to city slickers and to cowboys alike. It was a Hat for all seasons; it catered to whatever position in life you had — whether you were rich or poor, whether it was dress, work or play.

By 1886, Stetson owned the world’s biggest Hat factory in Philadelphia and employed nearly 4,000 workers. The factory was putting out about 2 million Hats a year by 1906. John B. transformed Hat making from a manual to a mechanized industry. He introduced iron cutting and shaping machines, improving quality control. He was also among the first U.S. tycoons to offer benefits to reward workers for hard work. He dispensed free health care to employees and gave shares in his company to valued workers. As a philanthropist, he founded Stetson University in Deland, Florida, and built a Philadelphia hospital.

The original Hat that John B. had named the "The Boss of the Plains" became the symbol of the American West and helped turn the cowboy into an American icon. In Hollywood films Stetsons became symbols of good (white Hats) and evil (black Hats). But in the end John B. was not alone concerned with making better Hats; he was interested equally in making better men.

This great story was brought to you by no other but, Stetson.com.




This is my Stetson...
 
 
Early American cowboys learned a lot about their new surroundings from Mexican people who lived in the area. The Americans also borrowed many Spanish words from the Mexicans, especially terms that applied to ranching. The Spanish word vamos means "leave". Cowboys revised the spelling and pronunciation to vamoose, but did not change the meaning. Vamoose is now a commonly used American slang word. American cowboys adopted many other Spanish words such as lasso, rodeo and amigo that are now widely used in Canada and the US.


Cowboys tend to speak very informally. They use many contractions and they frequently disregard grammar rules. Double negatives are very common. This lingo (cowboy term for "language") can easily be identified in the type of music called "Country and Western". The casual style of speaking can be enjoyable, and is sometimes mimicked for fun by other people.

 
 
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Working in my orchard today!!!

Prune trees in Texas...
Pruning, like any other skill, requires knowing what you are doing to achieve success. The old idea that anyone with a chain saw or a pruning saw can be a landscape pruner is far from the truth. More trees are killed or ruined each year from improper pruning than by pests. Remember that pruning is the removal or reduction of certain plant parts that are not required, that are no longer effective, or that are of no use to the plant. It is done to supply additional energy for the development of flowers, fruits, and limbs that remain on the plant. Pruning, which has several definitions, essentially involves removing plant parts to improve the health, landscape effect, or value of the plant. Once the objectives are determined and a few basic principles understood, pruning primarily is a matter of common sense.



When to Prune


Pruning can actually be done at any time of the year; however, recommended times vary with different plants. Contrary to popular belief, pruning at the wrong time of the year does not kill plants, but continual improper pruning results in damaged or weakened plants. Do not prune at the convenience of the pruner, but rather when it results in the least damage to the plant. There is little chance of damaging the plant if this rule is followed. In general, the best time to prune most plants is during late winter or early spring before growth begins. There are exceptions to this rule, and they will be noted under the discussion of the specific plant groups. The least desirable time is immediately after new growth develops in the spring. A great amount of food stored in roots and stems is used in developing new growth. This food should be replaced by new foliage before it is removed; if not, considerable dwarfing of the plant may occur. This is a common problem encountered in pruning.



It also is advisable to limit the amount of pruning done late in summer as new growth may be encouraged on some plants. This growth may not have sufficient time to harden off before cold weather arrives resulting in cold damage or winter kill. Prune plants damaged by storms or vandalism or ones with dead limbs as soon as possible to avoid additional insect and disease problems that may develop.

Let's get to work.....



This is what I did today folks...Take care of my fruit trees!!



Now, its time to go to town!!!!












 



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Thursday, February 24, 2011

One day...

No question is so difficult to answer as that to which the answer is obvious. ~George Bernard Shaw


Go outside the relationship, become a detached observer – imagine a stage and see both of you on stage. See that other person doing what they do, and see yourself responding to them.







A relationship is two people eliciting responses from each other. If you want a change in response, then you must change your own actions
Understand and Fulfill Needs of Others




One of the golden rules of the therapy profession is that everyone needs at least one person with whom they can openly and unashamedly discuss every little detail – happenings, desires, fears – of their life, whether it is from the past, present, or future.


There are other psychological needs – to be accepted unconditionally, appreciated, recognized, respected, desired, valued, approved of, or complimented – that affect the way we communicate with each other. Listen carefully, ask questions to show that you are genuinely interested and you'll be amazed at the spin-offs from becoming a good question asker and a good listener. People appreciate, respect and value others who are great listeners.






Most people simply listen to the words that are being said to them, but words contain only 10% of the message. The remaining 90% is hidden in the body language and the tone of voice. Understanding body language can help you look beyond what people say to what they really mean.




Knowing Ourself



Knowing Ourself

How well do you really know your self?


What unique gifts, talents and skills do you bring to this world?

What specific issues represent your life challenges?

How much of your life is controlled by your personality? Inspired by your soul?

What underlying semi-conscious motives run your life?

What gives you meaning and purpose?

Do you have personal development plan?

The more you find out about your self and express your authentic self, the more meaning, joy and fulfillment you will have in your life. Explore yourself in depth and put into perspective your subconscious limitations, your character strengths, weaknesses and potentials, and your deepest desires and aspirations.



Plato's use of the Delphic maxim 'Know Thyself' Plato employs the maxim 'Know Thyself' extensively by having the character of Socrates use it to motivate his dialogues. Plato makes it clear that Socrates is referring to a long-established wisdom. Benjamin Jowett's index to his translation of the Dialogues of Plato lists six dialogues which discuss or explore the saying of Delphi: 'know thyself.' In Plato's Charmides (dialogue), Charmides refers to the maxim consistently with the view expressed in the Suda, with Charmides saying, "for they imagined that 'Know Thyself!' was a piece of advice which the god gave and not his salutation of the worshippers at their first coming in."[21] In modern words Charmides gives his opinion that 'Know Thyself!' was an admonition to those entering the sacred temple to remember or know their place and Charmides says, " 'know thyself!' and 'be temperate!' are the same. Notice that when the words of Charmides are written, 'thyself' and 'temperate' are punctuated with exclamation marks in the English translations,as if they were commands.[22] In the balance of the Charmides (dialogue), Plato has Socrates lead a longer inquiry as to how we may gain knowledge of ourselves.




Know yourself, weakness and all






By Jeffrey Hansen-Carlson, Surrey Now February 8, 2011



SURREY - I have insecurities. Some I use as the punch line to a self-directed joke. Others I make considerable effort to conceal. There is a specific insecurity that seems to tug at my manhood too consistently and this has been the case since I was a little boy.



I can't fix anything. I can't repair anything. I can't assemble anything. I can't tune-up anything. Essentially, I am mechanically incompetent. It is not for a lack of effort, either. In an bid to make myself a better man I have poured countless hours into fixing, repairing, assembling and tuning-up this, that and the other, but to no avail. The outcome of my best-intended efforts is a combination of irreparable damage and temper tantrums.



Bikes are simple pieces of equipment, but any bike on which you hope to achieve a given level of performance needs to be precisely tuned. Precisely tuning a bike is mechanical in nature, so therefore, it is a task that rests in my incompetence zone.



Un-tuning a bike comes naturally. Sometimes I build up the nerve to crack open a bicycle repair manual and tinker in search of the elusive precise tune. I hope that should my mechanical conquest be a success I would feel more valuable as a man. The sad reality is that after each attempt at being my own bicycle mechanic, I have to bring my bike to the bike shop to have undone what I had done, and to have professionally done what I sought to do. It hurts.



Bicycle mechanics are a rare bread of professional. Not only do they appreciate the precision we roadies are after, but they also deal with goobers like me who require a tune-up way, way too often.



I have struggled with the idea that maybe I am not applying myself. If I were to truly focus and muster up even an ounce of fake confidence to loosen that first bolt and explicitly and faithfully follow the directions from there you could argue that I would learn. I don't know about that.



Knowing what you are good at is great; knowing what you're not good at is better. I accept that the part of my brain that allows me to conceptualize mechanical things is goop - it is fried, dead, overrun with mold. There is no hope for me.



I love my bikes, I really do. My home-based mechanical ambitions are equivalent to shoddy medical care in a decrepit hospital. A trip to the bike shop is like being airlifted to an exclusive private hospital. I'd take the skill of a trained bicycle mechanic over my own any day, even if it means feeling less manly.



Thankfully, my bikes are still under full warranty. I will have to get my wife to tune them when the warranties expire.





- Jeffrey Hansen-Carlson's column appears weekly in the South Surrey/White Rock Source.





Read more: http://www.thenownewspaper.com/Know+yourself+weakness/4246380/story.html#ixzz1Etwfy6hZ